“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”
One of the most important, yet one of the hardest, things to do is forgive. We have a hard time letting go of what bad things people have done to us and how they have hurt us. It is easy to dwell on those things and let them lead to paths filled with loneliness and depression. The thing that most people do not realize is that forgiveness is not an easy concept to master.
To forgive someone is to say that even though someone has done you wrong, you are willing to move on and forget about what happened. Forgiving someone does not mean that you are telling them what they did was okay. It does not mean that you have to be friends with that person again.
The part where most people struggle is when they try to forget about what happened. What you have to understand is that if you have truly forgiven someone, then you are saying that you are moving on with your life. You have to be willing to forget. You cannot forgive someone half-heartedly. It is all or nothing. When you have honestly forgiven someone for something, it lifts the weight of the pain off your shoulders.
The sooner you forgive someone, the better, but it is never to late to forgive. Maybe you need to forgive someone for something that they did a long time ago. Let go of the bags you have been carrying with you for so long. Maybe you need to forgive someone for something they did an hour ago.
Either way, let the person know you have forgiven them. Do not just decide to forgive them and keep it to yourself. Perhaps they have been struggling with the hurt they caused you and think that they do not deserve to be forgiven. Send them an email, text, or give them a call. Tell them that you have forgiven them and you are letting those burdens go.
There is still one other person you need to forgive—yourself. Everyone has hurt someone at some point in their life. You need to accept that no matter what you did, you deserve to forgive yourself and allow yourself to let it go. When you do that, you should also contact the person you hurt and ask them to forgive you. More than likely, they will do it in a heartbeat. If they do not, that is okay. You have already forgiven yourself and gotten your freedom back. At least you are admitting that you did something wrong and want to make it right.
Whoever you need to forgive, do it today. Right now. You never know how much time someone has left. Let them know.
Author: S.C. Brown
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